How Can You “Just Get Over It”?
You encounter a setback or a loss. Someone, a well-meaning someone, tells you to “just get over it.” How can you? The quick answer is you don’t. (Well, I don’t.)…
Read moreDo We Have Resistance or Denial When We Need Resilience?
I meet many managers, coaches, and consultants who say that people “resist” their ideas. I meet too many people with vertigo who say they “resist” their problems. They don’t use…
Read moreAre You Attached to the Process or the Outcome?
In the comments for What’s the Difference Between Problem Whining and Problem Solving?, I spoke about a couple of different things: Being attached to the process or being attached to the…
Read moreWhat Do You Need to Unlearn?
I read Jerry Weinberg’s Advice to New Graduates and thought I would ask this question about unlearning. I had to unlearn many things when I started to work. Here are some…
Read moreWhat Do You Learn from Your Vacation?
I love to take vacations. Yes, I love my work, and I love to take vacations. I just returned from 12 days in Israel. In the past, when I have…
Read moreHow Do You Persist?
I’ve been in a couple of Fitbit challenges to see who can walk “most” in a work-week. I’ve enjoyed them and have pushed myself a little each week, to see…
Read moreWhere Are Your Fall Lines?
In skiing, the fastest way down the hill is a primary fall line. Every hill might have more than one fall line. If you rolled a ball down the hill,…
Read moreWhen Do You Change Your Mind?
I was in an airport recently. I was in the ladies room, headed for a handicapped stall. This airport had the handicapped stalls at either end of a long row…
Read moreHow Often Do You Look for Feedback?
I recently got a FitBit Zip. I got the small one that fits in your pocket and tracks steps. It supposedly counts calories, too, but I’m not using the calorie…
Read moreWho Do You Trust?
I fell down again the other day. I was crossing the street, didn’t see that the ramp had a curb and my rollator’s front wheels stuck. As my rollator fell…
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