When Do You Need to Reframe the Problem?
We have problems in our lives. Sometimes, we can fix those problems. Sometimes, we cope with those problems. Sometimes, we manage those problems. And, some problems might appear to have…
Read moreHow Can You Become Better than You Fear, as Good as You Hope?
I like to be great at everything I do: my client work, my writing, my relationships. You name it, I want to be great at it. When I have the autonomy…
Read moreHow Do You Maintain Your Emotional Balance?
I’m in Paris at a conference this week. I was a keynote speaker, which is lovely for my ego. One of the participants asked me how long I’d been a…
Read moreHow Do You Think and Feel About Age?
A number of people have asked me in the last few weeks and months when I’m going to retire. While I think that might not be a totally appropriate question,…
Read moreIs This Problem Deterministic or Non-Deterministic?
We solve many problems over the course of a day, week, month, year. Some problems are difficult because the problem is difficult to solve. Some of my book projects are…
Read moreWhich Inconsistencies Do You Notice?
I travel a lot. I’ve noticed a trend in hotel rooms that irritate me: a very-high bed and very-low toilet—a design inconsistency. This past week, I stayed in a slightly…
Read moreHow Can You “Just Get Over It”?
You encounter a setback or a loss. Someone, a well-meaning someone, tells you to “just get over it.” How can you? The quick answer is you don’t. (Well, I don’t.)…
Read moreDo We Have Resistance or Denial When We Need Resilience?
I meet many managers, coaches, and consultants who say that people “resist” their ideas. I meet too many people with vertigo who say they “resist” their problems. They don’t use…
Read moreAre You Attached to the Process or the Outcome?
In the comments for What’s the Difference Between Problem Whining and Problem Solving?, I spoke about a couple of different things: Being attached to the process or being attached to the…
Read moreWhat Do You Need to Unlearn?
I read Jerry Weinberg’s Advice to New Graduates and thought I would ask this question about unlearning. I had to unlearn many things when I started to work. Here are some…
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