How Will Your Memory Be For a Blessing?
You might have heard the phrase, “May her memory be for a blessing,” when people discuss Ruth Bader Ginsberg’s death. Molly Conway wrote a wonderful essay. I encourage you to…
Read moreWhat Principles Do You Use for Value Decisions?
Here, in the US, we’re trying to open schools at all levels, play professional sports, and open as much of the economy as possible. We want it all. Now. And,…
Read moreHow Do You Manage Imposter Syndrome?
I chatted with a talented coach a few days ago. He’s between clients. He felt as if he was stagnating, not learning anything. He said, “This is one of those…
Read moreWhen Do We Choose the Social Contract & When Do We Choose the Economic Contract?
We operate at various levels in our families, work, and society. We have shortcut names for these behaviors: the economic contract and the social contract. When we use the economic…
Read moreWhat Do You Need to be Ready?
We all practice being ready for our plans. For shopping, I make a list and decide in advance how I’ll pay. For travel, I plan when to make all the…
Read moreDo You Choose to Mistake-Proof or Future-Proof?
A client trying to use an agile approach said, “I want to future-proof my organization. I want the assurance we will be here for years and years.” I asked him…
Read moreHow Many Options Can You Hold at One Time?
The more I learn about adaptability, the more I realize I need to generate several options. The options help me select a new response to the altered situation. And, every…
Read moreHow Can You Make it Easy?
We do favors for each other all the time. Those favors don’t have to be reciprocal. If I do a favor for you, I’m pretty sure I can ask for…
Read moreWhen Do You Choose the Safe Path?
Early in my career, IBM dominated the computer landscape. They had the big mainframes. There were some alternatives, such as Xerox. I used a Xerox Sigma 6 in school. (I…
Read moreIs Happiness Your Goal?
Several of my clients have told me they want to help people be happy. They measure—well, they attempt to—each individual’s happiness. I have not found measuring happiness all that helpful.…
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