I am more than “disappointed” by the overturn of Roe v. Wade this past week. I am enraged and full of grief for the women who will die. When I was in high school, before Roe was passed, several girls “got in trouble” (talk about blaming the victim). A couple of them had babies. They […]
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In our daily lives, we manage all kinds of risks. We fill up our cars with gas so we get to where we’re going. In addition, I’ve learned to check the maps before I leave. That’s because the map in my head has pruned several non-local roads because I barely drove anywhere during the pandemic.
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Think back to before the pandemic. How well did you create a difference between the time you spent at work, home, and for yourself? Now, think about where you are now. Where would you say you are now with your time at work, home, and for yourself? Before the pandemic, my days look a lot
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I’m writing this newsletter in the time of COVID-19 and the protests about George Floyd’s murder. I feel as if we are in much more chaos, even as we understand more about the virus. (I actually had to write What Do You Do When You’re Off-Center? before I wrote this.) I’ve been practicing these ideas and hope
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We operate at various levels in our families, work, and society. We have shortcut names for these behaviors: the economic contract and the social contract. When we use the economic contract, we have a document that lays out our responsibilities and rewards. For example, at work, we have a contract for our job that discusses
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I had several experiences in the past weeks: requests to write and speak as a consultant. And, a fascinating doctor problem. I’ll start with requests for my expertise. When I receive requests for my expertise (writing, speaking, reviewing, consulting), I evaluate those requests with certain guideposts: what fits my values and interests. What do I
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I have a head cold. I’ve had this for almost two weeks. My cough interrupts my sleep (and Mark’s) almost every night. I’m seeing the doctor again today, to make sure I don’t have something other than a head cold. (I didn’t last week.) The problem is not the head cold. The problem is this:
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If you live in New England, you know how long and difficult our winter has been. It’s the end of March, and it’s still cold and windy. Two days ago, we missed snow in Boston, but it was windy. 40-50 mph sustained winds. As I like to call them, “Small person warnings.” I had taught
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Are you laughing enough? I know, you don’t normally associate laughter with problem solving, do you? But laughter relieves tension. If you stay wound tight and serious during all of your adaptability, how you can see the big picture, the small picture, or anything in between? You have to relax. You can’t do that when
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When you have a broken leg, you get a cast. Your bone takes 4-6 weeks to heal. Maybe you need physical therapy, maybe you just exercise. You’re done. If you have a cold, you take cold medications, or you wait until your cold is better. If your cold gets bad enough to have bronchitis or
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