Is Happiness Your Goal?
Several of my clients have told me they want to help people be happy. They measure—well, they attempt to—each individual’s happiness. I have not found measuring happiness all that helpful.…
Read moreWhat Are You “Natural” At?
A friend attempted to offer me a compliment the other day. She didn’t mean to. She said, “You’re a natural writer. It comes so easy to you.” I said, “Thank…
Read moreHow Do You Build Grit?
Perseverance, the idea of grit, fascinates me. Every time I finish a (damn*) book, I experience relief and happiness. Relief that it is finally over—that’s the “damn” part. Happiness because…
Read moreHow Can You Become Better than You Fear, as Good as You Hope?
I like to be great at everything I do: my client work, my writing, my relationships. You name it, I want to be great at it. When I have the autonomy…
Read moreHow Do You Think and Feel About Age?
A number of people have asked me in the last few weeks and months when I’m going to retire. While I think that might not be a totally appropriate question,…
Read moreTip 7: Believe in Yourself
How Can You Understand Someone’s Context?
A few weeks ago, I was at the Agile 2018 conference. The conference has changed from its beginnings. It’s now full of certifications and big consulting organizations that will sell…
Read moreHow Can You “Just Get Over It”?
You encounter a setback or a loss. Someone, a well-meaning someone, tells you to “just get over it.” How can you? The quick answer is you don’t. (Well, I don’t.)…
Read moreHow Can You Change ‘I Can’t’ to Why Not?
I recently met a digital nomad. She literally travels the world, writing in various places. She has many chances to experience various cultures. She is open to many possibilities. I…
Read moreAre You Attached to the Process or the Outcome?
In the comments for What’s the Difference Between Problem Whining and Problem Solving?, I spoke about a couple of different things: Being attached to the process or being attached to the…
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