When two people marry, they create a new family. However, their families—especially the parents of the new couple—now also have a bond. There’s a delightful Yiddish word that describes that co-in-law bond: machatunim. Machatunim describes the family of the heart. We can choose how large we want this heart-based family to be. Last week, I realized […]
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Mark and I got married 37 years ago today. I took a picture of the picture in our printed photo album. (That’s what we did then. People took pictures, printed them, and put them into photo albums. Also, my dress is totally 1984.) I was thinking of our expectations of ourselves back then. We had
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Mark and I both wear glasses. Several years ago, I bought many microfiber cloths so I could clean my glasses, especially at breakfast. For some reasons, my glasses attract fingerprints and smushes when I’m sleeping. (I know, the smushes were there when I went to bed, but I don’t see the dirtiness in the evening.)
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I was at a conference last week. There was a panel about women in technology. Of course, I went. I heard several concerning stories. One woman said something like this: “My previous husband was concerned when I went out for dinner with professional colleagues. He was concerned I was “seeing” other men.“ Note that she
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I’d had it with the robo calls on our home line. You know you have a robo call when you pick up the phone, there’s a pause, and a disembodied voice starts to sell you something. Irritating! I discovered a service that promises to learn and end the robo calls. I signed up and got
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A few days ago, I asked Mark, “When do we need to replace our toothbrush heads? Mine looks like it’s done.” He told me, “Feb 1.” Okay, I could live with another few days. This morning, he left me a new toothbrush head on the counter. I laughed and teased him, “It’s not the 1st.
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Seth Godin’s Hope and Expectation inspired me to write this post. I hope for a great many things. I hope that the nice researchers find a cure for vertigo. I hope to be able to bike on the road (on some sort of tandem) with Mark. I hope that people will buy my books and write
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I tried to make sugar-free coconut macaroons last weekend. I found a recipe that called for sweetened condensed coconut milk, where you simmer coconut milk with erythritol, my sugar-free sweetener of choice. I did. I never did turn my coconut milk into something that looked like sweetened condensed milk. It never got thick. I did
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A client emailed me last week. She’s a senior manager in her organization. Has been for several years. She’s considering reducing her work hours and taking a different position because her children are teenagers and need more emotional and driving support. I can understand. I have been there and done that. I wrote about that,
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I read Ann-Marie Slaughter’s article Why Women Still Can’t Have It All a while ago. I was stunned. Why does anyone think they can have it all, at the same time? I still strongly believe that women can “have it all” (and that men can too). I believe that we can “have it all at
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