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How Would You Act if You Optimized for Uncertainty to Gain More Resilience?

This is Johanna Rothman’s September 2025 Create an Adaptable Life Newsletter. The unsubscribe link is at the bottom of this email. Do you like uncertainty? I don’t, and I’m not alone. That’s because uncertainty feels as if it’s an unmanageable risk. We even have sayings such as, “Don’t rock the boat,” to explain why we […]

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How Large is the Family of Your Heart?

When two people marry, they create a new family. However, their families—especially the parents of the new couple—now also have a bond. There’s a delightful Yiddish word that describes that co-in-law bond: machatunim.  Machatunim describes the family of the heart. We can choose how large we want this heart-based family to be. Last week, I realized

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How Can We Balance Our Assumptions and Convictions to Start With Empathy?

Do you feel as if the various world events happen faster than you can understand them? I do. That means I start with assumptions and strongly held convictions—even if it turns out I’m wrong. I don’t like to be wrong—and I suspect you don’t either. That’s why I’m considering how I can change my reaction

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Which Assumptions Do You Bring to What You Read? (& My Recent Experience)

I recently replied to a tweet, based on my assumption of what I read. Here’s the tweet: How do you describe product management to your mom? I jumped to the assumption that this question was one of those “mom” memes, where (mostly) young men ask a question that assumes that moms are not technical, incapable

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How Can You Go Meta to Solve a Problem When You’re Stuck?

A client, Dave, explained his concerns and said, “I have no idea where to go from here.” He explained that he’d already gone through his reasonable problem-solving steps. He’d researched, asked the team to experiment, and asked his peers for help. Nothing was working. I asked, “Do you know about going “meta” on the problem?”

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