Can You “Just” Anything?
Too often, I hear the word “just” when modifying a feeling. “Can’t you just shake it off?” Or, “Can’t you just move on?” Or, “Can you just go along with…
Read moreDoes Your Current Success Define Your Choices?
One of my clients had been quite successful in a particular role. She’d decided it was time to look for a new job doing the same thing. She wanted my…
Read moreWhat’s the Difference Between Resilience and Adaptability?
Many people use the terms adaptable and resilience interchangeably. However, they mean different things and we live and use them differently. When we are adaptable, we see that reality has…
Read moreWhere Do We Go From Here?
We encounter a problem somewhere, at work, at home. We often reflect, to discover the root cause(s). That might be useful, especially if we discover a common cause, something within…
Read moreHow Can You “Just Get Over It”?
You encounter a setback or a loss. Someone, a well-meaning someone, tells you to “just get over it.” How can you? The quick answer is you don’t. (Well, I don’t.)…
Read moreHow Do You Say Goodbye?
I was thinking about saying goodbye last week. I’ve been in groups where people slip away. Yes, they leave without saying goodbye. That’s not my style. In my family, we…
Read moreWhat’s the Worst Thing You Could Do?
I often think about the worst thing that could happen, as a way to manage risk. That’s one alternative. Sometimes, when I’m stuck on a problem, I think about the…
Read moreHow Do You Build Your Adaptability?
If you’re like me, things don’t always proceed as I planned. Sometimes, my plans turn out better. Sometimes, worse. If I want to make them better in the moment, I…
Read moreHow Can You Create Time or Space for More Options?
One of my problem-solving approaches is to generate options. When I don’t generate enough options, I don’t see how to proceed. Before I knew about the Rule of Three, I, often,…
Read moreWhen Do You Inflict Help?
I bet you have a person like this in your life: Person says, “I’ve got a problem.” Your ears perk up. A problem! You can help. “Tell me more,” you say.…
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