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When Do You Choose Personal Stability Over Professional Change?

I recently met two engineering managers: Joe and Mary. Both 55. Both are bored with their jobs. And taking totally different approaches to their boredom problems. Joe decided to hang out in his current position—for the next 12 years, until he meets the retirement age of 67. He’s choosing personal stability. Mary is gathering her …

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How Do We Balance the Power to Make Decisions with Who Feels the Outcomes?

When you were a child, your parents made all the decisions for how you lived. I distinctly remember thinking it was “so unfair” that I had to go to bed and not read more. Yes, I was one of those kids who read under the covers with a flashlight. Even as adults, we live in …

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​Three Ways to Show Others the Value of Your Adaptability and Resilience​

Despite all the uncertainty we see these days, some people still value predictions and certainty over adaptability and resilience. Then, when their predictions and certainty don’t work, these folks suddenly value adaptability. When we show others the value of our flexibility, we don’t surprise ourselves with fake certainty. We can, especially if we show others …

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When Can You Recognize and Avoid the Trap of Either/Or Thinking?

I hear a lot of “either/or” language in work situations: We “must” do this thing. Here’s an example: We’re not agile if we don’t do some practice, such as standups. We “cannot” do exactly the same thing. We can’t do that practice, such as standups, and be agile. I hear either/or language in personal situations, too: …

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