Are You Playing a Finite or an Infinite Game?
In these COVID times, some people think they need to play zero-sum games. Those games are the ones where “I win, you lose.” While we might win short-term, we often…
Read moreWhen Do We Choose the Social Contract & When Do We Choose the Economic Contract?
We operate at various levels in our families, work, and society. We have shortcut names for these behaviors: the economic contract and the social contract. When we use the economic…
Read moreWhat Do You Need to be Ready?
We all practice being ready for our plans. For shopping, I make a list and decide in advance how I’ll pay. For travel, I plan when to make all the…
Read moreHow Can You Find Your Realistic Optimism?
Let me set the context: I’m writing this post in the midst of the coronavirus pandemic. I don’t know how you feel, but I range between pessimism and optimism at…
Read moreWhich Risks Can You Manage?
The coronavirus is sweeping across the world. We have risks everywhere: to travel, to the economy, to our work, and in our communities. What can we do? We need to…
Read moreWhen Does it Make Sense to Change Your Lane?
On my way to an appointment the other day, I saw traffic backed up. The left lanes—the through lanes—looked stuck. I signaled and turned to get into the middle lane.…
Read moreWhat Do We Choose to Reward and Punish?
I’ve been following the issues and the punishments in the college admissions scandal. If you’re not based in the US, you might have missed this. The idea is that wealthy…
Read moreHow Can You Make it Easy?
We do favors for each other all the time. Those favors don’t have to be reciprocal. If I do a favor for you, I’m pretty sure I can ask for…
Read moreDo You Want What’s New or What Works?
How do you feel about change: do you like what’s new or what works? Sometimes I like new things. I love to try new recipes—often with company! I’ll try new…
Read moreWhen Do You Suffer from FEAR?
I was talking with my father recently about my writing workshops. I’m finishing the last touches on the first one and hope to finally make it available for registration any…
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