When Do You Say Yes?
I was at a client event this past week with several other consultants. Over a dinner, we discussed some of our choices—when did we say yes and when did we…
Read moreHow Do You Build Your Resilience?
We all have some resilience. How much? I am a creature of habit for many parts of my life. I like my routines. I like having the same breakfast every…
Read moreAre You Looking for Success or Perfection?
True confession: I am a perfectionist. I want to be the best at everything I attempt. And, I know I can’t be perfect at everything, all the time. Certainly not…
Read moreHow Resilient Are You?
There’s a survey over on HBR, Assessment: How Resilient Are You? If you have read the resilience literature, you know how to answer the questions. The questions are all hypothetical, which…
Read moreWho Do You Want to Be?
When we’re young, people ask us what we want to be when we grow up. We consider professions such as doctor, lawyer, policeman/woman, teacher. That’s because when we’re young, we…
Read moreInstead of Or, Are You Considering And?
A client emailed me last week. She’s a senior manager in her organization. Has been for several years. She’s considering reducing her work hours and taking a different position because…
Read moreHow Do You See Yourself?
Many people see themselves as their titles. “I’m a tester or developer or project manager or business analyst.” You are not your role. You are not your title. You are…
Read moreHow Do You Matter?
In previous questions of the week, I’ve been focused outward, on the system. In this question, I invite you to focus inward. How do you matter, to yourself, and to…
Read moreFeeling Vulnerable vs. Feeling Shame
When I have a vertigo attack, I feel vulnerable. But I don’t feel shame. For me, there is a big difference. I feel vulnerable because I can’t find my balance,…
Read moreSelf-Esteem Can’t Arise From Your External Beauty Either
There’s a sad story making the rounds today. Samantha Brick wrote an article in the Daily Mail called ‘There are downsides to looking this pretty’: Why women hate me for…
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