One of my coachees has a common problem. He has a ton of work he doesn’t want to do (the shoulds). He has some work that gives him joy that he wants to do. He has too much work overall. He’s stuck. He can’t quite get anything done because the work he wants to do […]
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I was at a conference last week. There was a panel about women in technology. Of course, I went. I heard several concerning stories. One woman said something like this: “My previous husband was concerned when I went out for dinner with professional colleagues. He was concerned I was “seeing” other men.“ Note that she
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Given that I’ve published so much, I meet people who say, “I want to write. But, I need to wait for a good time to write.” Or, they say they need an outline or permission from someone—a boss or a spouse. I can be pretty sure about one thing: these people will never write anything. The
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I’ve been thinking about support these last few weeks. I have found support networks quite helpful, both for my emotional and physical needs. Some people don’t want support. If you try to help them, you inflict help. Sometimes, I don’t want support either. When I lean on a door to open it, I use my
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I start new things all the time. I mostly finish them. Some, I decide to put aside until I am ready or not as busy, so I can manage the risks. I often find that the things I put aside are the audacious ideas. The ideas that are highly risky, or will take some learning,
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I’m teaching a writing workshop. Writers have all kinds of problems. A common problem is the feeling of Imposter Syndrome. “Who am I to write this? Will anyone believe me? Is it valuable?” Imposter Syndrome arises when you think you’re not capable. Or, that your success arose from luck, not your hard work. There’s a
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I saw the movie Nashville this past weekend. Somehow, I missed it when it came out back in 1975. The movie’s premise is: It’s difficult to live an authentic, congruent life. Beware of people selling easy solutions. There are no easy solutions. We may have to change to get what we really want. I often
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A few days ago, I asked Mark, “When do we need to replace our toothbrush heads? Mine looks like it’s done.” He told me, “Feb 1.” Okay, I could live with another few days. This morning, he left me a new toothbrush head on the counter. I laughed and teased him, “It’s not the 1st.
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I love serendipity. I was drafting this post and read Dean Wesley Smith’s post about Starting Late. I’m practicing my fiction writing. Nothing to publish yet, still working. And then I thought about all the other things I started in 2015: Online workshops More non-fiction writing, including 2 books Pair-writing with several new-to-me authors Walking
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I spent much of September, October, and November traveling. My rollator and I saw the world. (I’m delighted to be back in my office.) One question I hear a lot is “May I help you?” That question is often followed by someone grabbing the top bar of my rollator to “help” me up a ramp,
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