I was at a conference last week. There was a panel about women in technology. Of course, I went. I heard several concerning stories. One woman said something like this: “My previous husband was concerned when I went out for dinner with professional colleagues. He was concerned I was “seeing” other men.“ Note that she […]
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Given that I’ve published so much, I meet people who say, “I want to write. But, I need to wait for a good time to write.” Or, they say they need an outline or permission from someone—a boss or a spouse. I can be pretty sure about one thing: these people will never write anything. The
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I’ve been thinking about support these last few weeks. I have found support networks quite helpful, both for my emotional and physical needs. Some people don’t want support. If you try to help them, you inflict help. Sometimes, I don’t want support either. When I lean on a door to open it, I use my
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I start new things all the time. I mostly finish them. Some, I decide to put aside until I am ready or not as busy, so I can manage the risks. I often find that the things I put aside are the audacious ideas. The ideas that are highly risky, or will take some learning,
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I’m teaching a writing workshop. Writers have all kinds of problems. A common problem is the feeling of Imposter Syndrome. “Who am I to write this? Will anyone believe me? Is it valuable?” Imposter Syndrome arises when you think you’re not capable. Or, that your success arose from luck, not your hard work. There’s a
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I saw the movie Nashville this past weekend. Somehow, I missed it when it came out back in 1975. The movie’s premise is: It’s difficult to live an authentic, congruent life. Beware of people selling easy solutions. There are no easy solutions. We may have to change to get what we really want. I often
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A few days ago, I asked Mark, “When do we need to replace our toothbrush heads? Mine looks like it’s done.” He told me, “Feb 1.” Okay, I could live with another few days. This morning, he left me a new toothbrush head on the counter. I laughed and teased him, “It’s not the 1st.
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I love serendipity. I was drafting this post and read Dean Wesley Smith’s post about Starting Late. I’m practicing my fiction writing. Nothing to publish yet, still working. And then I thought about all the other things I started in 2015: Online workshops More non-fiction writing, including 2 books Pair-writing with several new-to-me authors Walking
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I spent much of September, October, and November traveling. My rollator and I saw the world. (I’m delighted to be back in my office.) One question I hear a lot is “May I help you?” That question is often followed by someone grabbing the top bar of my rollator to “help” me up a ramp,
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Last month, I took a short vacation in Eilat while Mark went on a bike ride. I ordered some lunch in the lobby “bar.” (No, I don’t drink my lunch!) The bar manager took my order and we continued our discussion from the other day. How was my husband’s bike ride? I said he had
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