Are you afraid of success? Maybe you’re afraid of failure?
I’m afraid of being mediocre.
Sometimes our fears lead us to not even try. And that’s a shame. Because we can work on all of these fears.
Sometimes I have to as, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” I might fail in public. Well, I’ve done that and lived. Several times now. Oh, it hurts big time when it happens. But, life is funny. Other people don’t remember. I remember. I use that for the next time and do some risk mitigation so I don’t do that thing again.
Sometimes I ask, “What’s the best thing that could happen?” (When was the last time you asked that question?) Let your imagination run wild. When I do that, sometimes I cannot imagine all the great things that could happen. My imagination is not nearly good enough.
I hate the thought of being mediocre, so I practice a lot. I practice at the gym, to get strong. I practice my writing. (You’ve noticed, right?) I practice my public speaking. I practice my consulting, coaching, experiential training. I practice noticing what makes people laugh when I speak, so I can be funny. I practice many things, so I can become better. Because to me, being mediocre is the worst. It’s worse than failure.
If I have a failure, believe me, I work on that. I beat myself up on that for about a day, and then I make a plan and keep going.
When I try and don’t succeed, I have something I can work on for the next time. I’m not happy about it, but I can create a plan to get better.
But not even trying? I have no plan then.
Just enough to prevent me from being mediocre, and keep practicing.
I’ll get to success and prevent failure.
How about you? What are you afraid of?