Still Learning How to Ask for Help

I’m in NYC at a client and was out for dinner last night with a friend and colleague. My vertigo is much  worse at night, so as we were walking back to the hotel, I said, “I may need help walking.”

Well, if that wasn’t they most wimpy way to ask for help, I don’t know what was.

The sidewalk was under construction. The street had potholes. It was dark. The night does not play to my strengths. Why did I not just say, “Please give me your hand. I need a little help.” ??? I don’t know.

Partly it’s because I want to exert a little control over my situation and think that I’m improving. It was too late last night, and I’m not. Partly it’s because sometimes I’m still in denial. Partly it’s because sometimes I’m an idiot.

Even though I practice, I am still learning to ask for help.

Luckily, my friend is smarter than I am. He saw the reality of the situation. He immediately grabbed my hand and didn’t let go until we were at my hotel. He had no problem giving me help, even though I had trouble asking. Like I said, he’s a smart guy.

Maybe the moral of this story is: surround yourself with people who recognize when you need help. Then, they won’t let you fall over.

Or, maybe the moral of this story is: learning to ask for help is really hard. Practicing is good. Even wimpy practicing is good.


2 thoughts on “Still Learning How to Ask for Help”

  1. Liz Danielson

    I have a hard time with this, too. There is a belief ingrained in us that we HAVE to be able to do it on our own or it doesn’t count. This is not true, but it’s a hard belief to ditch. Thanks for writing about it.

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