When we’re young, people ask us what we want to be when we grow up. We consider professions such as doctor, lawyer, policeman/woman, teacher. That’s because when we’re young, we don’t know about options such as computer programming. We answer with professions we’ve seen. As we learn more about professions, we can choose again. When I […]
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In June of 1973, I had freshman orientation at the University of Vermont. I met P during that weekend. We hit it off, laughing together, enjoying the weekend. We had similar senses of humor. We thought some of the questions our fellow freshmen had were nuts. P was from a small town in Vermont. I
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In previous questions of the week, I’ve been focused outward, on the system. In this question, I invite you to focus inward. How do you matter, to yourself, and to others? We don’t ask ourselves this question enough. Too often, we suffer from Imposter Syndrome, where we think we are not good enough. Sure, we
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I was speaking with a coaching client the other week. We were talking about all of her responsibilities. She talked, I wrote. I’d written a half-page of responsibilities, some of them tactical, some of them strategic. I asked, “What else are you doing?” She paused, and said, “I think there’s more, but I have to
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Last week, I had a chance to talk at Boston SPIN. I’ve been involved at Boston SPIN for more than 20 years. So, speaking in front of a home-town crowd is a great thing. I had a chance to try my new version of my Creating An Adaptable Life talk. (The link goes to my
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How optimistic are you? I am optimistic. I learned that when I read Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life by Martin Seligman. Yes, there’s a test for how optimistic you are. Why does it matter how optimistic you are? Optimists do better in school, college, at work, and in sports. He
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If you live in New England, you know how long and difficult our winter has been. It’s the end of March, and it’s still cold and windy. Two days ago, we missed snow in Boston, but it was windy. 40-50 mph sustained winds. As I like to call them, “Small person warnings.” I had taught
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I went shopping with Daughter #2 this weekend. Yes, we braved the post-Christmas mall craziness. I brought my rollator so I could more easily pack water and have a place to sit. The rollator was a great idea for managing my vertigo. But there was a side effect. I seem to be invisible with my
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When you have a broken leg, you get a cast. Your bone takes 4-6 weeks to heal. Maybe you need physical therapy, maybe you just exercise. You’re done. If you have a cold, you take cold medications, or you wait until your cold is better. If your cold gets bad enough to have bronchitis or
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In a comment on Forwards, Backwards, Who Cares?, Sherry noted that she recently started to wear progressive glasses. I’ve been wearing them for more than a decade. So, when I had my first eye exam after my vertigo, my eye doctor wondered if she should take them away. “Why would you do that?” I asked.
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