Some people fear failure. Some people, like me, fear mediocrity. Other people, fear success. Don’t worry. You can be human and fear all of them in different circumstances! But if you fear success, you are not alone. Maybe you’ve been trying to accomplish something for a long time. You may have convinced yourself that what […]
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Mark and I have bought a house on the other side of town. It’s a one-story house. Here, it’s called a “ranch” style house. I think in the UK, it’s called a bungalow. In any case, all the rooms we will live in are on one floor. You know what this means, though. We have
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I’m in London this week, teaching and speaking. I’m having a blast. When I made reservations at this hotel, I asked many questions. I looked for a hotel where I could reserve a walk-in shower. I know that many hotels in London have no facilities for handicapped people, so I asked. Yes, this one did.
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I discussed perfection rules in my Do Your Rules Prevent You From Solving Problems? But, other rules can prevent you from living as full a life as you might want. When I was in 10th grade, I took French (the language). I wasn’t so good at French. My teacher told me he would give me
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Many years ago, I asked Mark, “Where do you go when you sleep?” I was curious. I was thinking of things such as “the soul takes over,” or “your dreams take you away” or some such philosophical waxing. Mark answered, “First I start on my left side. Then I go to my right side. Sometimes
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It’s snowing here today. We should end up with somewhere between six and twelve inches of snow when this storm is done. The problem? It’s a day storm, scheduled to be the worst during commuting hours. Ouch. The schools are closed, and many businesses have encouraged people to work from home. That way, they can
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This week’s question of the week is, “What can I control?” I was thinking about this in several dimensions. I was talking with a client manager, who was bemoaning his lack of potential influence across the organization. “I don’t have enough influence to do what I want.” I asked him this question, “What can you
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I want lots of things in my life. Some of them are not in my control, such as growing 6 inches taller. Sigh. But, many of them are in my control. I can get them just by asking for them. I can ask for help, as I’ve suggested several times. Asking for help is a
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I’ve been exploring adaptability in this blog for several years now, but I haven’t defined it rigorously. I discovered this report: Training Adaptable Leaders: Lessons from Research and Practice, RR1844_Adaptive Ldrs, from the US Army, and I’m slowly digesting it. Here’s how the report defines adaptability: an effective change in response to an altered situation. Well,
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I was thinking about how I solve problems, and I realized that I often ask three questions. I thought I would share them with you. First question: What’s the next step? I use this a lot on myself (grin), and in coaching. This question is useful when you think you’re stuck. You can almost always
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