Everyone has a relationship with money. We need money to buy things, such as food, clothing, and shelter. We want enough money so we can be happy. And, our relationships with money often dictate the decisions we make.
In my recent question, When Do You Choose Yourself? I wrote about some of the decisions we make now affect our ability to choose differently in the future.
That means we might want to examine our relationship with money.
I see money in these ways:
- An employee might or might not be paid fairly. Employee pay is too often based on what the person made last year or at the last company. At some point, if the organization pays attention, they will create pay parity. Or, the people leave. That means money is a surrogate for explaining our value to the organization.
- As a consultant or writer, I offer certain services and writing for a specific fee. I hope my clients and readers realize the value of that fee. Sometimes they do. Sometimes not. But, I have the option of clarifying how I came to that fee or cost.
- Money offers me options. If I make “enough” money, I might take extended time off. (As an employee, I always negotiated more unpaid vacation when I took a new job. I managed my money so I could make that work.) Now, I pay for ease in terms of tipping at an airport, or a better hotel room so I can write without pain.
Sufficient or more-than-sufficient money gives me choices I might not have. Not having enough money limits my choices.
If you’ve seen me in person, you know I use a rollator to manage my vertigo. It has large wheels, folds easily, and I can lift it into my car. That means I can easily travel with it. It’s about $200 more than the rollators “everyone” suggests. Sometimes, that “everyone” is a health care provider who wants to save money. Sometimes, it’s a doctor because they don’t know better.
When “someone” suggested to me I use a less expensive rollator, I asked questions:
- What about weight? At least 6 pounds more than mine which means I can’t easily lift it into the car.
- Wheel size? About 4 inches diameter. That’s too small to easily manage bumps in the road. Also, more difficult it is to climb curbs. And, small wheels means more road vibration transferred to my wrists. And, more bumping altogether. (For a person with oscillopsia!!)
- Seat height? The rollator they suggested did not come in “petite” or low-seat sizes. It was a normal-only size. Well, I’m too short to be normal. That means I wouldn’t be able to sit on it. I would perch, which is not optimal for a dizzy person.
The rollator they suggested would be fine for a person who is about 6 inches or more taller than I am and who isn’t dizzy. What’s the point of that? I use a rollator for more freedom, not less.
When I use my money to create more choices, I can create more freedom. I can create more choices. And that’s the point.
My relationship with money is about freedom of choice, freedom for more options.
That’s the question this week: How do you feel about money?
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