I discussed perfection rules in my Do Your Rules Prevent You From Solving Problems? But, other rules can prevent you from living as full a life as you might want. When I was in 10th grade, I took French (the language). I wasn’t so good at French. My teacher told me he would give me […]
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We all have rules. Some of our rules arose from our childhoods. “Look both ways before crossing the street,” is an example of what might be a good rule. Of course, it depends which way you look first, depending on the country you’re in, right? Our rules can help us live productive lives. They can
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Some people are afraid of failure. I’ve already said that I’m afraid of mediocrity. But that’s me. Sometimes that fear of failure is so fierce that it is paralyzing. Sometimes, even worse, the fear of failure produces the very thing we fear. I see this a lot in my clients. They want assurances that their
Many years ago, I asked Mark, “Where do you go when you sleep?” I was curious. I was thinking of things such as “the soul takes over,” or “your dreams take you away” or some such philosophical waxing. Mark answered, “First I start on my left side. Then I go to my right side. Sometimes
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Are you laughing enough? I know, you don’t normally associate laughter with problem solving, do you? But laughter relieves tension. If you stay wound tight and serious during all of your adaptability, how you can see the big picture, the small picture, or anything in between? You have to relax. You can’t do that when
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It’s snowing here today. We should end up with somewhere between six and twelve inches of snow when this storm is done. The problem? It’s a day storm, scheduled to be the worst during commuting hours. Ouch. The schools are closed, and many businesses have encouraged people to work from home. That way, they can
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This week’s question of the week is, “What can I control?” I was thinking about this in several dimensions. I was talking with a client manager, who was bemoaning his lack of potential influence across the organization. “I don’t have enough influence to do what I want.” I asked him this question, “What can you
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I want lots of things in my life. Some of them are not in my control, such as growing 6 inches taller. Sigh. But, many of them are in my control. I can get them just by asking for them. I can ask for help, as I’ve suggested several times. Asking for help is a
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Are you afraid of success? Maybe you’re afraid of failure? I’m afraid of being mediocre. Sometimes our fears lead us to not even try. And that’s a shame. Because we can work on all of these fears. Sometimes I have to as, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” I might fail in public. Well,
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